Wednesday, April 29, 2009

“My Mommy doesn't teach me”

Recently at Lydia's birthday party, I met one of Anthea's classmate mommy. She is a Full Time working mother. She had 3 children and Anthea's classmate (S) is the youngest of her 3 children.
We were chatting about our children result in school and she lamented that S was not doing very well in her studies. I had also heard from Anthea that S had not learnt this and not learnt that in class.

S's mother was very stressed and tensed. Previously for her 2 older children, she had left them in an after school care centre and so far, they are pretty independent in their studies and she had no worries.

As of this year, she engaged a maid and kept all the 3 children at home after school. The reason is cost efficiency. For the after school care service, she needs to pay $300 per child, so if she was to put 3 of them there, it would be a hefty sum of $900 per month. She said it's almost ¾ of her salary. So she decided to engage a maid which can look after the children and help her parents in housework too.

To her dismayed, S is not as independent as her siblings in her studies. So she is lagging behind in class. She told me that the form teacher has feedback to her when the teacher asked S why she does not know her work. S would say: “my MOMMY didn't teach me.”

I was so shocked to hear S feedback too. I had never thought that a child of this age would put the “BLAME” on her parents. S's mommy was asking me about Anthea's after school care arrangement and I told her I take care of Anthea personally. Then she commented: “seem like all those children with mommy at home have no problems in their studies. Children with working mommy seem to be facing issues.”

I thought about her comments and I was thinking to myself. Yes, I made the decision to become a PTSAHM because I know the initial transition part to Primary school is difficult and the child will need a lot of attention. I believe S is not a slow learner but I think she just wants her mother attention.

I had the chance to chat with another working mommy and she felt the same, as a FT working mother, she does not have enough time to guide her daughter in her studies and she is now seriously considering to go Part Time next year. Also she mentioned that her daughter's school teacher recommended Parents to sign their children up for tuition or enrichment classes if they have problem teaching their own child. (she said this was recommend during a Chinese workshop in school)

Nowadays, Primary ONE children are not just learning A-B-C, they are really learning much more at a faster speed than we used to. Imagine spelling each week, topical tests every after every 2 chapters taught and Oral test with listening comprehension. There are just so much information for the parents to digest, less talk about the children…sigh.

Till today, I am glad that I had the opportunity to be with Anthea and to see that the transition from Kindergarten to Primary school goes smoothly and she is adapting well.

It is not an easy decision but I believe it's the Best I can give to my children.

I hope that as Anthea grows up she will remember that Mommy is always there for her, as and when she needs me.

Monday, April 27, 2009

Happy Birthday Lydia!


Lydia was Anthea best friend during their kindergarten days. Since they had left kindergarten and started on their primary school life, we hardly had time to catch up with one another. Lydia had gone to a different primary school.

2 weeks back, I received an SMS from Lydia's mommy inviting us to Lydia's 7th year old birthday celebration on 25 April 2009 at her home. I was delighted to receive the invitation and told Anthea about it. She was very happy and started looking forward to the day.

Saturday arrived soon and Anthea was so happy in the morning and said it was a Lovely Day because its Lydia birthday party... : P

At first, I was still thinking to myself – how would the girls react to one another, since they had not seen each other for almost 4 months? Will they turn strangers? Again I think my worries were unfound, when we reached Lydia’s home, both of them greeted each other and hit off straight away. Just like those good old days.

Both girls had a great time chatting and I also had a chanced to catch up with Lydia’s mommy. She is a FT SAHM and as Lydia is in the afternoon session, she will fetch her to and back from school. She had recently obtained her driving license. Meanwhile Anders was busy playing with Lydia DS game..haha.

Buffet dinner was served around 7.15pm and the food was delicious. There were many children, mostly were friend's children. A few others of the kindergarten friends also came.

Then at 8pm, there was a Magic show and it was entertaining to the children and adults. Both Anthea and Anders enjoyed themselves with the performance.

As usual, there were balloons sculpture and all the children got so excited with the balloons.

The cake cutting ceremony followed closely and Lydia had a High School Musical cake.

The children had so much fun with all the different games that Lydia had in her home. We played till almost 10.30pm before calling it a day and both of them were still reluctant to go home.

Overall, it was a wonderful celebration and I know Anthea had a great time seeing and catching up with her BEST Friend again.

Friday, April 24, 2009

"天使"的行动

Some days Anthea & Anders will ask me “mommy, when is Siti jie jie coming back? Why she so long hasn’t come back? “

Yes, why so LONG she is not back yet…hee. Some day I also hope that she will come back and join the family.
In honest true, I told the children “Siti jie jie will not be coming back. She has to look after her own family – her husband, her mother, her sister and of course, her new born baby boy.

Exactly 2 years back, Siti left for home .She got married and she is now a proud mother of a baby boy. I would not be surprise if she sms me and say “madam, I am having my no.2 baby…hee.”

Siti joined us in early March 2004, the same year I delivered Anders. She was shortlisted by my maid agency when we were looking for domestic helper. The agency was spot on and shortlisted the perfect match for our family.

I still remembered the 1st day when I met her at the agency – she was so small and skinny. Then we brought her to my mom’s place and we had dinner there. Anthea and she hit off on their 1st meet and I was really happy that Anthea took it very well with the new jie jie of the home.

At that time, as I was still pregnant and waiting to deliver Anders, so I had the chance to be home to monitor her progress. During my confinement month, siti was trained by my wonderful confinement lady who taught her all about Chinese cooking.

When she was confident to be home alone with Anders, I started on my Part Time job and she became his main caregiver.

In 2005, Siti’s father passed away suddenly and her family asked for her return to tend to the funeral. That’s was a heart breaking moment because she planned to return home for good. We went along with her decision.

A few weeks later, she called and said she wanted to come back to work; we rushed to the agency and reapply her work permit to the family. Then she was welcomed back with open arms.

She served us well for the next 2 years till April 2007. She had to return home to get married and looked after her elderly mother and younger sister. We were sad to see her leave but I was happy for her. She had found happiness in her marriage life and is now a proud mother of her own son.

Seeing how she had taken care of Anders, I know she will be a very good wife and mother to her family.

Yes, I really missed her at times, especially now I have to single handedly do all the house chores, tend to the children and keep up to date with my working life. Luckily my mom would come in once a week to help me with a bit of chores. : P

Siti really took good care of our family during her 3 years with us. I know I would not be 2nd time lucky to get such a wonderful helper like her. Especially after seeing friends who had so much issues with employing new helpers.

Also our present logistic arrangement does not require a domestic helper as I am the “maid” myself. : P Sometime I even told myself “in my previous life, I must have been a 太太,because now I am slogging like a slave and I may slave myself to death…做到死为止“哈哈!!
Yes, Siti had been our 天使for the years and I thank my Guiding Angel for bringing her into our family and our life.

On our 2nd year without maid review – I am glad to say that “I am still surviving!!”

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

“丰收日“

Learning Journey @Ecogarden

On Tuesday, Anthea School organized the 2nd Learning journey to Ecogarden@Science centre. This learning journey is in line with the English lesson on “My River” and Mathematics “Numbers to 20”.

The school letter mentioned that “it is compulsory for the child to go for this learning journey as experiential learning is a key focus of the Primary 1 SEED programme.”

Also on the letter, parents were advice to pack some Snack for the child to bring along for the outing.

On Monday afternoon, Anthea told me that Aunty Brenda will be going as PSG. So I thought that I should prepare the snack box for Max and Brenda too. So I smsed to Brenda and told her that I will prepare Baked rice for them for the outing. (She was very kind to pay for Anthea’s Macdonald lunch on last Friday, so I thought I should do something in return.)

On Monday afternoon, I went to NTUC Extra and bought the ingredients to prepare the ham & egg baked rice. This is a recipe shared by aunty SK. Both Anthea and Adrian love this bake rice.

I prepared the ingredients and set them ready in a casserole so I can bake it the next morning.

On Tuesday morning, I woke up at 5.30am and started baking the rice. After 30 minutes, the baked rice was ready and I packed them into 3 snack boxes. I told Anthea to pass the 2 snack boxes to Aunty Brenda when she sees her in school.

At the end of the day, I asked Anthea how was Ecogarden, she said it was fun but very hot..haha.

She told me she enjoyed the baked rice and finished all the stuff I packed in her box. : P

She had another round of baked rice for her lunch. Anthea simple adore cheese, gave her any dishes with PLENTY of cheese and it will sure to win her vote. What a ‘Cheesy girl’…hee.

ROI (Return of Interest)

Both Anthea and Anders had POSB kids account and I will always bank in their Ang Pow monies or sometime Birthdays ang pows. In 2003, when I went to the bank to deposit money for Anthea, the bank tell prompted me a Trust Fund account and mentioned about the potential interest that I can earned from this fund instead of keeping in the Kids saving account.

After careful discussion with Adrian, I deposited a sum of monies into the fund. I was prepared to put the monies there for 10 year tenure or if the Bank hit the target %, then it will redeem the fund.

Yesterday I received a letter from the bank to advise the fund had been redeemed. My capital investment + interest had been banked to my account. After some calculation, I was surprised that the fund did pretty well against the economy crisis. The interest earned was about 4% PA over the 6 years. If I had kept the monies in the Kids account, I don't think I will get ½ of the amount...hee. No bad...even though the amount is small but still adds up.

Now I am going bank shopping for the next available fun(d)!!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Sports – Membership - BBQ

On Friday, as arranged with Brenda, she came in the morning around 7.15 am to fetch Anthea to the sport complex for the Sport Day event.

The day before I baked some muffins for them to bring along as snack, just in case the food Q may be too long for Brenda to handle with 2 children in tow.

After work, I meet up with Brenda and the children at Junction 8. She brought them to Macdonald for lunch. When I asked Anthea how was the event, she said it's was boring...haha. Yeah, I reckoned that she may feel this way because she is not in any race and sitting at the stand and doing nothing can be quite bored. Hopefully next year she may get a chance to race in one of the event.

Then both Anthea and Max wanted to go to Popular bookshop, so we went along. At the bookshop, Brenda told me that the children had received their Primary School Student pass, so I thought I should apply for the Popular Members card since she has the pass now. For the Popular Student Membership card, I only need to pay $5 per annual. This card was highly recommended by Mommy Nel, as she said I can buy assessment books at a good discount. : )

After buying some books from Popular, we left for home. Both Anthea and Max had enjoyed each other companionship for the day. I also had a chance to know Brenda better and I was really grateful for her help.

In the evening, Adrian's company had a BBQ session at the SAF Chalet at Changi. Family members were invited for the dinner.

When I arrived at the chalet, I had a real surprised at how the place looks now. The place had a major renovation and now it looks so resort like and much cleaner and modern.

We had a lot of delicious BBQ food. His colleague also brought along PS3 game to the chalet and the children had a good time playing the games.

There were other children who came along, Anthea and Anders had fun playing with them too.
We left for home almost near to 11pm..: P

This weekend will be a rest and relax weekends. Anthea will be having her Oral test next Thursday/Friday and I will need to give her more practices.

Also her Semestral Assessment 1 will be taking place in the 1st week of May; we will need to do more revisions with her. Hopefully, she will do well in the SA.


On Thursday, Anthea received her 1st Trophy on Stage and she was so proud of it. She came home and told me i must set aside more space, she is looking forward to winning more trophies..haha.

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

跑吧,孩子

Anthea's Primary school 7th Annual Athletics Meet 2009 will take place this Friday, 17 April, from 8 am to 12 noon.

According to the Principal letter – “All Primary 1 to Primary 3 pupils (non-competitors) are strongly encouraged to attend the Athletics meet.

As I am working the morning hours, so I told Anthea that I may not be able to bring her for the event and she may go over to my mom's place while I am at work.

However, Anthea expressed her keen interest to go to the stadium to give her classmates her support. She is not shortlisted for any race but a few classmates of hers are participating in some races..

Honestly, I would love to bring her for the event but I know this week my work loads are quite packed as there are a few upcoming projects and my GM will be travelling soon.

Since I can't bring her there personally, I would not want her to feel disappointed and miss out the fun. So again, I approached Brenda and asked if she can help. She was very helpful and immediately arranged with me the time that she would pick Anthea and also the time I would pick her after the event. I really owe her a BIG one...and I am really glad to have known her through the PSG.

I told Anthea of the Friday plan and she was very happy and excited. She said that she likes Max's mommy (that's Brenda's son, he is in the same class as Anthea).

Today in school, they also have some kind of House race and Anthea was shortlisted to run for her house – Pluto.

Yesterday in the evening, she went with me to the jogging track and we did a quick race to practice her run. She was all geared up and looking forward to the run this morning.

After school when I fetched her, she told me “mommy, Pluto won the race and we will be getting our trophy tomorrow.”

I am really happy that she enjoys sports so much. She even told me she wants to sign up for basketball. I will find out more from her form teacher... : )

Now she is looking forward to the Friday event and I hope that she will have a great, fun time at her 1st sport day.

Monday, April 13, 2009

A Melting TREAT ..

Last weekend, Adrian announced to the families that this Good Friday weekend they may be in for a treat because recently he obtained his official engineer license. For this certification, he received slight increment in his monthly salary.

Amid all these economies crisis, to get this little reward add a little “sparkle” to our family, especially towards my “semi-retirement” goal...hee.

As his pay day falls on 10th of the month, we could not confirm if the monetary reward will come in this April or May 2009.

So on Wednesday, he did a quick check in his salary via the company's intranet and confirmed that the addition dollars was in the pay. Immediately, the PA (that's me!!) sent out an official invitation to the extended families for the weekend treat.

The PA immediately went into action in sourcing the venue for the treat. Recently I received my UOB Privileges booklet and was looking at the special of the month.

*BINGO* I saw this 1- for-1 BUFFET Lunch/Dinner at Melting Pot Café (
Holiday Inn Atrium).

Immediately I called the café and did a quick check and BOOKED the seats for 10 people + 1 infant ...hee. According to the person who answered the call, the café is having an Italian Cuisine for the Saturday diners.

On Saturday, we arrived at the café around 6.30pm, Adrian said since we were the host, must go early to make sure things were OK.

The buffet started around 6.30pm and we started getting food for Anthea and Anders. They were both so excited to see so many of their favorite dishes. They had a good time with all the fruits, desserts and ice-cream.

We started eating while waiting for the rest of the families to arrive. The extended families started arriving at different timing and everyone help themselves to the buffet.

During the dinner, we had different topics of discussion. Then Adrian started to go in-depth discussion of a 4x400m relay with my 3rd sister in law. She was from St.Nicholas Track & Field team. Adrian had been shortlisted by his company to take part in some kind of race and they were combining with the Commandos.

So he is now practicing very hard for the race that will be happening on this Friday, 17 April. Guess what...???....HE is in the RESERVED LIST...haha.

After a sumptuous dinner, we had dessert / ice cream and coffee. My MIL shared a bit more information about Xian with us.

Then around 10.15pm, we left for home and before heading home, my youngest BIL who went to the hotel lobby came back with good news. LIVERPOOL won 4 - 0 .

Adrian was very happy after the dinner and he said what he enjoyed most is not the food but the CONVERSATIONS with the families... : 0

I know he is a FAMILY MAN by default, so any family/families time spend is all worthwhile for him.

It was a good Melting experience for us and we will be back for more....whose TREAT will it be next??

Friday, April 10, 2009

生命的感言

2 hospitals visit within the week and it gave me some impact on LIFE!

1st visit – 08 April – Mount Alvernia Hospital

May delivered her 1st baby boy on 08 April, 09. Baby Luvik is a very cute and chubby baby boy. May is indirectly related to our extended family. She is the younger sister in law of my 3rd sister in law- Cherry.

On Wednesday evening after sending Anthea for her tuition revision class, I met up with Cherry at Bishan MRT and then together with Cherry's parents, we went to visit May.

It's always a happy occasion to visit newborn. Seeing them sleeping peacefully in the baby cot and seeing the pride on the new parents faces. I shared their joy and happiness.

As baby Luvik is the 1st grandson of the Chai's family, I can also sense the proudness in the grandparent's words and feelings.

Yes, a baby brings so much JOY to the family and it's complete a family too.

Wishing Bruce and May a smooth journey to the road of parenthood.

2nd visit – 10 April 2009 – Singapore General hospital

Xian (aunty SK's daughter), Adrian youngest cousin has been hospitalized a week ago because of some virus infection in her brain. So the doctor did a brain biopsy and the result was not too positive– it was lymphoma cancer.

It was a very big blow to Xian and aunty SK mentioned the she cried whole day when she heard of the diagnosis. The doctor has started chemotherapy treatment on her. As in any chemotherapy, she will get weaker and weaker. Aunty SK is very worried on Xian condition.

Xian has strong determination in her studies. When she was bed-ridden, she even took her exam by the hospital bed.

I know with her fighting spirit, Xian will overcome the cancer and comes out victory. She will celebrate her 21st year old birthday in May 2009 with her family and her friends.

娴,我相信奇迹会出现和祖宗会保佑你平安无事!!要加油!别放弃!!

Thursday, April 09, 2009

Happy 7th Year Old Birthday Celebration - Finale

Today, 9 April 2009, Anthea is 7 years old. Brought back good memories of 7 years ago when I delivered her in Mt.Alvernia hospital.

A few weeks back, after we celebrated Anders birthday in the childcare with his friends. Anthea said that she wished to celebrate her birthday with her classmates too. Hmm...Mission Impossible...I wondered. I told her as she is in a Primary School, so chances may be slim to get approval for birthday celebrations. Of course, I am not going to say “NO” to her without even trying.

Last week, I wrote an email to her form teacher – Mrs. Anna Koh to seek her approval for the celebration. To my greatest surprise – she said OK to my request. I told Anthea of Mrs. Koh approval and she was very happy. I told her the celebration would take place during her recess time from 9.30 am to 10 am. This will not disrupt the class lesson.

Then we started to source for her birthday cake. She shortlisted 5 of them – Winx club and Princess Cakes.

Finally we decided on E-creative Princess & The Pauper cake. Since E-creative does catering, I ordered some mini pizzas for the children as well. I also prepared some nuggets/ cocktail sausages for them.

Through my parent volunteer program with her school, I got to know one of her classmate’s – Max mommy - Brenda. So I engaged her help with the celebration.

In the morning, Brenda came over to my place to help me carry the food stuff to her school.

We set up the cake, food stuff and yakult at the Canteen table around 9 am. The form teacher has kindly advised the Mother tongue teacher to release the children early for recess for the celebration.

Around 9.20am, all of the children started to come in to the canteen. The children sang birthday song (both English & Chinese) for Anthea. Then she blew the candle and started distributing the cake.

The children were having a good time with the cake, mini pizza, and nuggets/cocktail sausages. Mrs. Koh also came along to join in the celebration.

After the food, we started to distribute yakult and the children enjoyed the drinks..
: P

We had many “uninvited guests” as well...haha. Many other children came to the table and started asking for cakes and food. Luckily I ordered the 2kg cake and it was enough to go around for the extra guests.

The recess ended at 10am and the children went back to their classroom for their lesson.

Anthea had a fun time with her classmates and I know she will remember her 7th birthday celebration with her Primary School friends.

On this special day, I want to wish my Lovely Princess –:

“A Happy 7th Birthday and just like what your name symbolize – May you always be Happy & Beautiful like the Flowers in Spring. “

Tuesday, April 07, 2009

RENEWALS !

Home Facial

We stayed in a very friendly neighborhood and I know all my 左邻右舍。There is one family whom are Malaysian and they worked in Singapore. They rented the unit from a Singaporean. (See how nosey I am to even know about such details..haha)

Well, in this family, there is a lady who works as a beautician in a beauty parlor in Singapore. So the other day I asked her husband if his wife does freelance facial during her off days. I seldom get to see her. The husband told me yes, so I asked him for her contact number.

We managed to connect and last Thursday which was her off day, she came over to my home and gave me a home facial. It had been a long time since I had my last facial and I needed one badly.

The 1 ½ hour session was very therapeutic and the best deal is I can do it on weekday. Usually I will need to arrange it on weekends when Adrian is home with the children. But now with this new discovery, I can do it right at home. (Of course minus the ambience).

I also don't like weekends facials as it clashes with my weekends joggings. Given a choice – I will choice health over beauty, especially for an aging aunty like me...hee : P

Employment Contract

My current employment contract ends on 9 May. So fast, 6 months is coming to an end for my contract. I did a quick check with my Agency and she advised me to check with my reporting Manager directly regarding the possibility of renewal.

I spoke to my Manager and he told me that as the company fiscal year closing is end June, he could not give me a definite answer yet if the budget may be approved. However he told me that he would like to renew me for a month – from 10 May to 09 June 2009 and asked me if I am agreeable. Of course, I was fine with his proposal.

So now I am renewed for another month till 09 June 2009, then I will know my “FATE”end of June. Actually the timing suit me fine as our Family Sydney holiday is planned for the week of 8 – 12 June. After the holiday, I can look after Anthea since she is having her mid year holiday, till further notice.

Of course, if my contract is not renew, I will become a FTSAHM for the time being and look for any other opportunities.

So far the 6 months of being a PTSAHM has been fulfilling. I am enjoying my work and at the same time, enjoying the time that I had spent at home with Anthea.

At times, it can be very tiring, especially rushing to and back to fetch her but I know all these effort are worthwhile. Seeing her happy in school and at home. This is truly PRICELESS.

Saturday, April 04, 2009

7th Year Old Birthday Celebration - Prelude

In the morning, Adrian went with my PIL and 2nd BIL family to the temple to pray to their grandmother for 清明。As Anthea was running a bit of flu, she had a rest day from Tien Hsia class. So I brought Anthea and Anders along to Jetabout Holiday to pick up our documents for Sydney.

Yes, we are confirmed on the Family package deal to Sydney... : ) after hearing Meekfreek's comment about Sydney, I know we had made the right choice...haha.

After collecting the documents, we met up with Adrian and the extended families for a Dim Sum lunch at Crystal Jade Toa Payoh.

At lunch, my 2nd BIL was very kind to ask Anthea what she would like for her upcoming birthday present. Anthea told Uncle Louis that she wants a Thumbelina VCD and she even told him that the disc can be found in AMK HUB..haha.

Then another sweet surprise comes along. My 2nd SIL – Eve said that she will bake a Raspberry chiffon cake for Anthea and we will have a simple celebration during dinner.. Adrian said this cake is priceless and I agreed. We told Anthea she must be thankful. Anthea is lucky to have such doting uncle and aunty. >>Thanks Eve for the delicious birthday cake.<<

Dinner was at Imperial Herbal at Clark Quay. As usual, Anthea had her favorite dish – Egg white with scallop on nest. Our families work hard during the weekdays, so during weekends, we will usually 宠一宠 自己 (courtesy of my PIL...hee.)

After a sumptuous dinner, we sang the birthday song and Anthea cut her birthday cake. Everyone enjoyed the cake very much. My little niece was so cute when we heard her sing the birthday songs in English & Mandarin. Soon she will have more chances to sing them when she starts her nursery classes.

Then we went home for early rest as my In-laws were taking the early bus for Genting.

For her birthday present, Adrian bought her a set of Pink DS on Friday. Now she is enjoying her DS games and her Thumbelina movie.

给我亲爱的 宝贝:生日快乐!!

Wednesday, April 01, 2009

报告班长 / 我胖了!!

Last week when Anthea came home from school, she told me…”mommy, I am the monitress of the class now. From now onward, I must help Mrs. Koh.” She said with a very big, bright smile on her face.

During the PTC before the 1 week school holiday, her form teacher already mentioned to me her intention to “promote” Anthea as the class 班长for the 2nd term. I am really happy for Anthea as I know this will help to build up her leadership quality and also she must set a good example for her classmates.

Now, after school, I will ask her about what duties did she do during the school hours and she will share them with me.

I told her she should always listen to Mrs. Koh instruction carefully and follow it dutifully. As all her classmates will be looking upon her, she must always put on her best behavior.

I hope she will continue to do well in this term and be a role model in her new position. : )

Recently, family members had been commenting to me that: 她好像胖了!!Nope, they were not talking about me…thank Goodness…HEE ! They were referring to Anthea. My eldest brother who had not seen her for a few weeks said that she has grown so much these few weeks.

I had observed and noticed the same but I was not worried. As a matter of fact, I am happy. During her days in childcare, she was on the skinnier side. After starting Primary school, she is slowly but surely growing.

I believe this is mainly due to her improved appetite and well rested nap. Each day after lunch, she will do her school or tuition homework. After that, she will watch a little of TV program. Then she will drink her Milk, yes, she is still drinking milk. My MIL (a nurse by profession) has always taught me – don’t stop her, let her drink as long as she wants. Milk is supposed to be nutritious for the children. Recently Adrian also mentioned that the children milk contained all the vitamins as well.

Then after her milk, she will take her routine 1 ½ to 2 hours afternoon nap. A mommy has shared this with me before “会睡觉的孩子会长肉。”. I believe what she said is quite true to a certain extent.

Looking at Anthea progressing well in school and growing up healthy at home give me great satisfaction and comfort. I know my decision as a PTSAHM has been rewarded.